Pelvic Pain Natters

Friday Take Away - Is the Juice Worth the Squeeze? | Patient Wisdom for Male Pelvic Pain Recovery

Is the juice worth the squeeze?
 
This episode is based on patient wisdom — the real-life insights my patients share in clinic that can genuinely shift recovery.
 
If you’re living with male pelvic pain, it’s incredibly common to start avoiding activities: sitting, cycling, exercise, socialising, intimacy… and slowly, life shrinks. In this podcast, we explore how to run a simple cost–benefit analysis (in a way that actually makes sense), and how to rebuild evidence of safety through small, realistic steps.
 
I’m Karl Monahan from Pelvic Pain Matters. These are short, practical 15-minute episodes built from clinical experience, patient stories, and what works in real recovery.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
 
✅ Why avoidance makes life smaller (and often keeps symptoms louder)
✅ The question that reframes fear: “Is the juice worth the squeeze?”
✅ How to build evidence of safety (instead of evidence of danger)
✅ Real examples from “Jake”: sitting pain, gym bench, chair triggers, lap pressure, sauna/steam
✅ How to use graded exposure (small, paced, achievable steps) to reclaim meaningful activities
✅ Why “dosage” matters: doing the right thing in the right amount
 
 
Chapters / Timestamps
00:10 – Intro: patient wisdom & why it matters
01:15 – Avoidance: how small has your life become?
02:25 – “Is the juice worth the squeeze?” (Jake’s phrase)
02:57 – Sitting pain + building evidence of safety
03:58 – Cost–benefit analysis (without the boring language)
04:39 – How avoidance steals exercise, social life & identity
05:18 – Jake’s breakthrough: choosing “yes” despite discomfort
06:14 – Predictive processing: expectation can amplify pain
07:17 – Example 1: the gym bench (benefit outweighs threat)
08:55 – Example 2: “the chair” at mum’s house (and the dog factor)
09:34 – Girlfriend vs dog: meaning changes the body’s response
10:27 – Example 3: sauna/steam + rebuilding tolerance
12:35 – What are you avoiding — and is it worth it?
12:57 – Graded exposure: small steps, pacing, realistic goals
13:28 – Your turn: what “juice” is worth your squeeze?
14:15 – Outro + how to reach us
14:38 – Circle community (optional extra support)
 
 
Comment below: What have you been avoiding?
 
And what’s one meaningful thing you want back in your life — even if you start small?
 
If you found this useful, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs it.
 
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If you’re tired of going through pelvic pain alone, endlessly researching, or trying to piece everything together yourself, the Circle is where your recovery gets supported properly.
 
This is a private, off-social-media community for men who want:
 
✔ Real guidance (not random forum advice)
✔ A place to ask questions without embarrassment
✔ Consistent support during flare-ups and setbacks
✔ A structured way to learn, grow, and actually move forward
✔ Connection with men who get it — because they’re living it too
 
Inside the Circle, you’ll get:
 
🔹 Monthly success stories
🔹 Movement + mobility videos
🔹 Breathwork sessions
🔹 Pain understanding & recovery education
🔹 Tools to help you regulate your system, reduce uncertainty, and find steadier recovery
 
It’s the space I wish I had when I was in the darkest parts of pelvic pain.
 
If you’re ready for support, structure, guidance, and community — this is where your next step begins. Click here for more information - https://pelvic-pain-matters-community...
 
 
#PelvicPainMatters #MalePelvicPain #CPPS #PelvicPainRecovery #ChronicPain #PainScience #MensHealth #GradedExposure #SittingPain #PatientWisdom
 
 

Dopamine, Prediction & Pelvic Pain | Break the Anticipation Loop (Part 3)

In this episode of my Friday Takeaway series, we look beyond the pelvic floor again… this time diving even deeper into dopamine and its role in this complex condition.
I’m Karl Monahan, founder of Pelvic Pain Matters, clinical director of The Pelvic Pain Clinic… and someone who has lived through chronic pelvic pain myself. I get how consuming and frightening these patterns can become. In male pelvic pain, it’s not just what’s happening in the pelvic floor — it’s what your whole system predicts is about to happen.
In this Friday Takeaway, I continue our dopamine series by exploring prediction, anticipation, and “scanning” behaviours — the loops that can quietly fuel symptoms, flare-ups, urgency, and fear.
I’m Karl Monahan, founder of Pelvic Pain Matters, clinical director of The Pelvic Pain Clinic, and a former pelvic pain sufferer myself. These episodes are short, practical snippets to help: patients navigate pelvic pain more successfully clinicians broaden assessment beyond the pelvic floor partners/loved ones better understand what someone is going through In this episode you’ll learn:
✅ Why the brain is less a “receiver” and more a predictor
✅ How pelvic pain can become a self-fulfilling prophecy (without being “in your head”)
✅ Why morning symptom-checking and body scanning ramps up threat
✅ How dopamine fuels urgency, catastrophising, and anticipation loops
✅ A simple 90-second breathing “firebreak” to interrupt the cycle
✅ How to re-train prediction using mismatch journaling (“what I feared” vs “what happened”)
✅ How to shift your system from threat → trust, one small degree at a time Recovery isn’t about flipping an off-switch. It’s about changing your relationship with sensations, thoughts, and uncertainty — and teaching your system that not every signal equals danger.
Do you notice yourself scanning for symptoms in the morning, before sitting, travel, or sex? Drop a comment — what pattern traps you most, and what helps you shift it?
OIN THE PELVIC PAIN MATTERS CIRCLE — OUR PRIVATE ONLINE COMMUNITY
If you’re ready for support, structure, guidance, and community — this is where your next step begins. Click here for more information -
https://pelvic-pain-matters-community...
If you’re tired of going through pelvic pain alone, endlessly researching, or trying to piece everything together yourself, the Circle is where your recovery gets supported properly. This is a private, off-social-media community for men who want:
✔ Real guidance (not random forum advice)
✔ A place to ask questions without embarrassment
✔ Consistent support during flare-ups and setbacks
✔ A structured way to learn, grow, and actually move forward
✔ Connection with men who get it — because they’re living it too Inside the Circle, you’ll get: 🔹 Monthly success stories
🔹 Movement + mobility videos
🔹 Breathwork sessions
🔹 Pain understanding & recovery education
🔹 Tools to help you regulate your system, reduce uncertainty, and find steadier recovery
It’s the space I wish I had when I was in the darkest parts of pelvic pain. If you’re ready for support, structure, guidance, and community — this is where your next step begins.
Click here for more information - https://pelvic-pain-matters-community...
#PelvicPainMatters #MalePelvicPain #CPPS #PelvicPainRecovery #DopamineDetox #PainScience #MindBodyConnection #ChronicPainSupport #PelvicHealthForMen #PelvicFloorDysfunction #MenWithPelvicPain #PelvicPainHelp

The Darker Side of Dopamine & Pelvic Pain | Why Anticipation Fuels Symptoms (Part 2)

We often think dopamine is the “feel-good” chemical — but there’s a darker side that plays a powerful role in male pelvic pain.
In this episode of my Friday Takeaway series, we look beyond the pelvic floor again… this time diving into how anticipation, fear, scanning, and craving for relief can reinforce pain cycles and keep your system stuck in protection mode.
I’m Karl Monahan, founder of Pelvic Pain Matters, clinical director of The Pelvic Pain Clinic… and someone who has lived through chronic pelvic pain myself. I get how consuming and frightening these patterns can become.
🔍 In this episode, we explore:
✔ Why dopamine drives anticipation and pain prediction
✔ “Scanning” behaviours: checking symptoms on waking
✔ Fear before sitting, sex, or activity — and how that fuels pain
✔ Why hope can become stressful when it hangs on outcomes
✔ Understanding pain as a processing problem, not “in your head”
✔ Practical strategies to dial down urgency and create space to recover
✔ How to replace fear-driven habits with safety-driven curiosity When we begin to understand the brain–body cycle, everything starts to make more sense — and recovery becomes more possible.
💬 Chat to Me Do you recognise these patterns?
How does anticipation or scanning show up in your day?
Share in the comments — your insight might help someone else.
✨ JOIN THE PELVIC PAIN MATTERS CIRCLE — OUR PRIVATE ONLINE COMMUNITY If you’re ready for support, structure, guidance, and community — this is where your next step begins.
Click here for more information - https://pelvic-pain-matters-community...
If you’re tired of going through pelvic pain alone, endlessly researching, or trying to piece everything together yourself, the Circle is where your recovery gets supported properly.
This is a private, off-social-media community for men who want:
✔ Real guidance (not random forum advice)
✔ A place to ask questions without embarrassment
✔ Consistent support during flare-ups and setbacks
✔ A structured way to learn, grow, and actually move forward
✔ Connection with men who get it — because they’re living it too
Inside the Circle, you’ll get: 🔹 Monthly success stories 🔹 Movement + mobility videos 🔹 Breathwork sessions 🔹 Pain understanding & recovery education 🔹 Tools to help you regulate your system, reduce uncertainty, and find steadier recovery
It’s the space I wish I had when I was in the darkest parts of pelvic pain. If you’re ready for support, structure, guidance, and community — this is where your next step begins.
Click here for more information - https://pelvic-pain-matters-community...
#PelvicPainMatters #MalePelvicPain #CPPS #PelvicPainRecovery #DopamineDetox #PainScience #MindBodyConnection #ChronicPainSupport #PelvicHealthForMen #PelvicFloorDysfunction #MenWithPelvicPain #PelvicPainHelp

Friday Take Away - Dopamine Pt 1 of a Double Dose

In this bonus podcast Karl Monahan continues to take a look at factors beyond the pelvic floor in this complex condition. Continuing his series of looking at the brain as an integrated system Karl explores dopamine and its role in pleasure, and pain! he looks at unhelpful behaviours and our relationship with them in the onset to symptoms and their continuation.
Pt 1 of 2
 
These hints and tips are to help steer your recovery in pelvic pain. They are insights to help you understand what your re experiencing and why.
Here is the link to the FREE catastrophisation guide. Scroll down the page - https://www.pelvicpainmatters.com/fre...
This exciting new podcast is dedicated solely to male pelvic pain conditions - Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome and Chronic Prostatitis
Pelvic Pain Matters website - https://www.pelvicpainmatters.com/
The Pelvic Pain Clinic website - https://www.thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk/
Email Pelvic Pain Matters - pelvicpainmatters@gmail.com
Email clinic - info@thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk
#prostatitis #chronicpelvicpainsyndrome #chronicprostatitis #prostate #menshealth #malepelvicpain #recovery #support #urology #urologist #menshealthphysiotherapy #pelvichealth

Recognising and Managing Anxious Thoughts in Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome and Prostatitis

In this episode, the co-founder of Pelvic Pain Matters, Karl Monahan, introduces us to "Anxious Alistair" - a character representing the anxious inner voice that can amplify pelvic pain symptoms. Monahan shares insights on how to recognise Anxious Alistair, understand his role, and manage his influence through mindfulness and facing fears. This episode provides practical tips for acknowledging and lessening the grip of anxiety during the pelvic pain journey. Key Takeaways:
Anxious Alistair is a common inner voice that can worsen pelvic pain through catastrophising and fuelling the pain-anxiety cycle.
Recognising Anxious Alistair's presence and not buying into his exaggerated narratives can reduce his power.
Practising mindfulness and "feeling the fear and doing it anyway" can help break free from Anxious Alistair's grip.
Patience, self-compassion, and understanding the mind-body connection are crucial for managing pelvic pain and anxiety.
Featured Topics:
The role of anxiety and the inner critic in pelvic pain
Strategies for recognising and managing Anxious Alistair
Applying mindfulness and exposure therapy to overcome pelvic pain-related fears
Understanding the psychology and neuroscience behind pelvic pain conditions
Connect with Pelvic Pain Matters:
Website: www.pelvicpainmatters.com
Instagram: @pelvicpainmatters
Facebook: /pelvicpainmatters
Email: pelvicpainmatters@gmail.com
 
#PelvicPainAnxiety #ManagingPelvicPainMindset #OvercomingPelvicPainFears #PelvicPain #pelvicpain #malepelvicpain #cpps #prostatitisrecovery #ChronicPelvicPainMentalHealth
 

The 90-Second Emotion Rule: Mastering Your Mood for Pelvic Pain Relief | Pelvic Pain Natters Ep. 52

The 90-Second Emotion Rule: Mastering Your Mood for Pelvic Pain Relief | Pelvic Pain Natters Ep. 52
Episode Overview In this Friday Takeaway episode of the Pelvic Pain Natters podcast, host Karl Monahan delves deeper into the role of the mind in pelvic pain conditions. Focusing on Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor's groundbreaking work on the "90-second rule" of emotions and mood states, this episode offers crucial insights into emotional processing and its impact on pelvic pain management.
Key Takeaways Understanding the 90-Second Rule Emotions are brief, lasting only about 90 seconds Complex interplay of neurotransmitters and hormones drive emotional responses Mood states can persist much longer due to thought patterns and beliefs
Breaking the Cycle of Prolonged Mood States Recognising the difference between initial emotions and extended mood states Impact of negative bias and survival instincts on pain perception Techniques for interrupting negative thought patterns
Mindfulness: A Tool for Emotional Mastery Introduction to mindfulness practices for pain management Benefits of consistent meditation (10 minutes daily recommended) How mindfulness reduces the hold of negative emotions
The Mind-Body Connection in Pelvic Pain Whole-body approach to understanding and managing pelvic pain Integration of emotional and physical therapies Long-term strategies for symptom management and overall wellbeing
Expert Insights Karl Monahan draws on neuroscientific research, particularly the work of Harvard neuroscientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, to provide evidence-based strategies for emotion regulation in chronic pain management. Dr. Taylor's "90-second rule" forms the cornerstone of this episode's discussion on building self-control and managing pain more effectively.
Practical Applications Daily mindfulness practice techniques Self-assessment tools for emotional awareness Strategies to apply the 90-second rule in daily life Resources for
Further Learning
Book: "The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris Book:
"Whole Brain Living" by Jill Bolte Taylor
Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor's TED Talks and website
Article: "The 90-Second Rule That Builds Self-Control" by Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor
About the Podcast Pelvic Pain Natters is dedicated to male pelvic pain conditions, including Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome and Chronic Prostatitis. It provides insights, hints, and tips to help steer recovery and understand the experiences associated with pelvic pain.
These bonus episodes offer deeper dives into specific aspects of pelvic pain management.
Connect With Us
Pelvic Pain Matters website: www.pelvicpainmatters.com
The Pelvic Pain Clinic website: https://www.thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk/
Instagram: @pelvicpainmatters
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PelvicPainMatters/
Email Pelvic Pain Matters: pelvicpainmatters@gmail.com
Email clinic: info@thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk
Keywords #PelvicPain #90SecondRule #EmotionRegulation #Mindfulness #MoodManagement #ChronicPain #MentalHealth #Neuroscience #MindBodyConnection #PainRelief #Prostatitis #ChronicPelvicPainSyndrome #ChronicProstatitis #Prostate #MensHealth #MalePelvicPain #Recovery #Support #Urology #Urologist #MensHealthPhysiotherapy #PelvicHealth

The Brain as a Google Search Result: Understanding Mind-Pain Connection | Pelvic Pain Natters Ep. 51

The Brain as a Google Search Result: Understanding Mind-Pain Connections | Pelvic Pain Natters Episode. 51
Episode Overview In this Friday Takeaway episode of the Pelvic Pain Natters podcast, host KarL Monahan explores the intricate relationship between the mind and pelvic pain conditions. Drawing on cognitive science concepts, Monahan introduces the idea of the brain functioning like a Google search result, prioritising potential threats and worst-case scenarios, especially in those with chronic pain.
Key Takeaways Understanding Brain Affordances How the brain presents options (affordances) based on environment and context The "Google search result" analogy for brain function The Mind's Role in Pain Perception The importance of considering mental factors without implying pain is "all in your head" How the brain's threat-detection bias affects pain experience
The Flight Example: Anticipatory Anxiety Detailed breakdown of how someone with pelvic pain might catastrophize about a flight Contrast between perceptions of those with and without chronic pain Broadening Perspectives on Outcomes Encouragement to consider more neutral or positive possibilities Reflection on past experiences often being less negative than anticipated
Practical Applications Techniques for challenging overly negative thought patterns Strategies for more balanced anticipation of events Expert Insights Karl Monahan draws on his experience as both a pelvic pain sufferer and a specialist to provide practical insights into the cognitive aspects of pain management. The episode emphasizes the integrated nature of mind and body in the pain experience.
About the Podcast Pelvic Pain Natters is dedicated to male pelvic pain conditions, including Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome and Chronic Prostatitis. It provides insights, hints, and tips to help steer recovery and understand the experiences associated with pelvic pain. These Friday Takeaway episodes offer concise, focused information on specific aspects of pelvic pain management.
Connect With Us
Pelvic Pain Matters website: www.pelvicpainmatters.com
The Pelvic Pain Clinic website: https://www.thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk/
Instagram: @pelvicpainmatters
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PelvicPainMatters/
Email Pelvic Pain Matters: pelvicpainmatters@gmail.com
Email clinic: info@thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk
Keywords #PelvicPain #MindBodyConnection #CognitiveBias #PainPerception #ChronicPain #MentalHealth #Neuroscience #AnticipationAnxiety #PainManagement #Prostatitis #ChronicPelvicPainSyndrome #MensHealth #MalePelvicPain #Recovery #Support #PelvicHealth

Pelvic pain natters podcast. Ep 50. Thank you! Reflections. Moving forward

In this bonus podcast Karl Monahan celebrates our 50th podcast episode! We made it. We got this far. Thank you for your support. We want to continue doing these.
Can you help us reach a wider audience @pelvicpainmatters
These hints and tips are to help steer your recovery in pelvic pain. They are insights to help you understand what you are experiencing and why.
This exciting new podcast is dedicated solely to male pelvic pain conditions - Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome and Chronic Prostatitis
Pelvic Pain Matters website - https://www.pelvicpainmatters.com/
The Pelvic Pain Clinic website - https://www.thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk/
Email Pelvic Pain Matters - pelvicpainmatters@gmail.com
Email clinic - info@thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk
#prostatitis #chronicpelvicpainsyndrome #chronicprostatitis #prostate #menshealth #malepelvicpain #recovery #support #urology #urologist #menshealthphysiotherapy #pelvichealth

Pelvic pain natters podcast. Ep 49. Flare ups and Burn Out!

In this bonus podcast Karl Monahan continues to dive a little deeper into flare ups. Karl reflects on the comparison between flare ups and burn out. He looks at the presentation of burn out. He looks at the causes of burn out and why the comparison may help unpack the causes of a flare up.
These hints and tips are to help steer your recovery in pelvic pain. They are insights to help you understand what you are experiencing and why. This exciting new podcast is dedicated solely to male pelvic pain conditions - Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome and Chronic Prostatitis
Pelvic Pain Matters website - https://www.pelvicpainmatters.com/
The Pelvic Pain Clinic website - https://www.thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk/
Email Pelvic Pain Matters - pelvicpainmatters@gmail.com
Email clinic - info@thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk #prostatitis #chronicpelvicpainsyndrome #chronicprostatitis #prostate #menshealth #malepelvicpain #recovery #support #urology #urologist #menshealthphysiotherapy #pelvichealth

Pelvic pain natters podcast. Ep 48. I hear you, I see you.

In this bonus podcast Karl Monahan touches on the hidden illness that is male pelvic pain conditions like Prostatitis and Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome. He explores the difficulty of being seen and heard, by the world, health professionals and others.
These hints and tips are to help steer your recovery in pelvic pain. They are insights to help you understand what your re experiencing and why.
Here is the link to the Sunflower Lanyard - https://hdsunflower.com/uk/insights/post/airports-around-the-world
This exciting new podcast is dedicated solely to male pelvic pain conditions - Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome and Chronic Prostatitis
Pelvic Pain Matters website - https://www.pelvicpainmatters.com/
The Pelvic Pain Clinic website - https://www.thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk/
Email Pelvic Pain Matters - pelvicpainmatters@gmail.com
Email clinic - info@thepelvicpainclinic.co.uk
#prostatitis #chronicpelvicpainsyndrome #chronicprostatitis #prostate #menshealth #malepelvicpain #recovery #support #urology #urologist #menshealthphysiotherapy #pelvichealth